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1、A Question of Focus,“It appears that the way people perceive the world is much more important to happiness than objective circumstances.” Ed Diener,Emotions determined by external and internal Choice of focus,“To the different minds, the same world is a hell, and a heaven.” Ralph Waldo Emerson,“Noth
2、ing is good or bad but thinking makes it so.” William Shakespeare,Two Archetypes,The Fault-Finder “The fault-finder will find faults even in paradise” Henry David Thoreau Could lead to resignation The Benefit-Finder (Bower, 2007) Could lead to detachment The need to respect reality,“The invariable m
3、ark of wisdom is to see the miraculous in the common.” Ralph Waldo Emerson,We Co-Create Our Reality,“Now however fixed these elements of reality may be, we still have a certain freedom in our dealings with them. Take our sensations. That they are is undoubtedly beyond our control; but which we atten
4、d to, note, and make emphatic in our conclusions depends on our own interests; and, according as we lay the emphasis here or there, quite different formulations of truth result. We read the same facts differently. Waterloo, with the same fixed details, spells a victory for an englishman; for a frenc
5、hman it spells a defeat. So, for an optimist philosopher the universe spells victory, for a pessimist, defeat. What we say about reality thus depends on the perspective into which we throw it.” William James,We Co-Create Our Reality,Isnt it strange how princes and kings, and clowns that caper in saw
6、dust rings, and common people, like you and me, are builders for eternity? Each is given a list of rules; a shapeless mass; a bag of tools. And each must fashion, ere life is flown, A stumbling block, or a Stepping-Stone. R. L. Sharp,A Matter of Interpretation,“Never let a good crisis go to waste.”
7、Anne Harbison,“Things dont necessarily happen for the best, but some people are able to make the best of things that happen.”,A Matter of Interpretation,“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” Winston Churchill,A Question of Inter
8、pretation,The world according to the fault-finder The (same) world according to the benefit-finder,The Benefits of Being a Benefit Finder,Well-being (Thompson, 1985) Health Affleck et al. (1987) Bower (1998) King & Miner (2000) Longevity,“The joyfulness of a man prolongeth his days.” Ecclesiastes,Th
9、e Nun Study (Danner et al., 2001),Only positive feelings predicted longevity,“God started my life off well by bestowing upon me grace of inestimable value. The past year which I spent as a candidate studying at Notre Dame has been a very happy one. Now I look forward with eager joy to receiving the
10、Holy Habit of Our Lady and to a life of union with Love Divine.” Celia OPayne,“I was born on September 26, 1909, the eldest of seven children, five girls and two boys. My candidate year was spent in the mother-house, teaching chemistry and second year Latin at Notre Dame Institute. With Gods grace,
11、I intend to do my best for our Order, for the spread of religion and for my personal sanctification.” Marguerite Donnelly,The Nun Study (Danner et al., 2001),Only positive feelings predicted longevity Age 85: 90% of most cheerful quartile alive; 34% of least cheerful quartile alive. Age 94: 54% of m
12、ost cheerful quartile alive; 11% of least cheerful quartile alive,Get Real!,The world according to the media,Get Real!,The world according to the media Media bias magnifying glass rather than looking glass accentuating the negative (magnifying) under-representing the positive (minimizing),Get Real!,
13、The world according to the media Media bias magnifying glass rather than looking glass accentuating the negative under-representing the positive Who is really detached? Focusing on the 90% full part of the glass Focus creates reality,Appreciating Appreciation,Creating a growth spiral Genuine appreci
14、ation! There is always something to appreciate,Ap-preci-ate v., 1. Valuing; the act of recognizing the best in people or the world around us, affirming past and present strengths and potentials; to perceive those things that give life (health, vitality, excellence) to living systems. 2. To increase
15、in value, e.g., the economy has appreciated in value.,“What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it. Opportunities, relationships, even money flowed my way when I learned to be grateful no matter what happened in my life.” Oprah Winfrey,Correcting
16、 the False Schema: News,Correcting the False Schema: Art,Jan Vermeer,Correcting the False Schema: Art,Ludwig van Beethoven,Correcting the False Schema: Art,Correcting the False Schema: Art,David Knowles,Sandra J. Shaw,Correcting the False Schema: Studies,Adaptation,We are change detectors Change det
17、ection helpful in case of danger Adaptation helps to overcome difficulties Taking things for granted Eating the cake and leaving it whole?,Must something external and extraordinary happen before we learn to appreciate the ordinary?,Learning to be Grateful,“You say grace before meals. All right. But
18、I say grace before the concert and the opera, and grace before the play and pantomime, and grace before I open a book, and grace before sketching, painting, swimming, fencing, boxing, walking, playing, dancing, and grace before I dip the pen in the ink.” “Gratitude produced the most purely joyful mo
19、ments that have been known to man.” G. K. Chesterton,“Why not start by surveying a typical day? What is it you tend to tackle with spontaneous mindfulness, so that without an effort your whole heart is in it? Maybe its that first cup of coffee in the morning, the way it warms you and wakes you up, o
20、r taking your dog for a walk, or giving a little child a piggyback ride It is a matter of practice, of doing it over and over again, till it becomes second nature.” “Gratefulness is the measure of our aliveness. Are we not dead to whatever we take for granted? Surely to be numb is to be dead.”,Resea
21、rch on Gratitude,Emmons and McCullough (2002) Four groups: gratitude, hassles, superior, control Psychological and health benefits Physiological benefits (McCraty & Childre 2004) Benefits of trait gratefulness Maintaining freshness Weekly? (Lyubomirsky, 2008) Variety Minfulness (Langer, 1989) Visual
22、ize (Kosslyn, 2005),Try It!,Becoming a benefit-finder 21 days or your money back Chipping away negativity Thanks for reminding me Co-creating reality with questions,Gratitude to Others (Seligman, 2005),Take time to reflect Letter, phone, or in-person Largest boost in wellbeing Regularly (weekly, bi-
23、weekly or monthly) Writing helps even if letter not sent,Worst and Happiest Experiences (Lyubomirsky et al. 2006),Writing, Talking, or Thinking Mental and physical health measures Analyzing versus replaying (study 3),“We live in a given world. What brings fulfillment is gratefulness, the simple resp
24、onse of our heart to this given life in all its fullness.” Brother David Steindl-Rast “To live and die in gratefulness, if in no other virtue.” Galway Kinnel “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others”. Cicero,The Morality of Gratitude,“I wondered how it was possibl
25、e to walk for an hour through the woods and see nothing of note. I who cannot see find hundreds of things: the delicate symmetry of a leaf, the smooth skin of a silver birch, the rough, shaggy bark of a pine. I who am blind can give one hint to those who see: use your eyes as if tomorrow you will ha
26、ve been stricken blind. Hear the music of voices, the songs of a bird, the mighty strains of an orchestra as if you would be stricken deaf tomorrow. Touch each object as if tomorrow your tactile sense would fail. Smell the perfume of flowers, taste with relish each morsel, as if tomorrow you could n
27、ever taste or smell again. Make the most of every sense. Glory in all the facets and pleasures and beauty which the world reveals to you.” Hellen Keller,Final Project,20-30 minute Presentation Any topic within positive psychology Written text (10-15 pages double spaced) Slides (word or powerpoints)
28、Include: Reference to research Optional: stories, film clips, exercises, etc Dates March 20: Let your TF know your topic April 7: Send your TF 1 page outline (draft) By May 3: Presentation to 3-4 classmates May 10: Final project due,http:/www.gratefulness.org http:/www.luckfactor.co.uk/ Danner, D.,
29、Snowdon, D., and Friesen, W. (2001). Positive emotions in early life and longevity: Finding from the nun study. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 80, 804-813. Emmons R. A. (2007). Thanks! How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier. Houghton Mifflin. Seligman, M. (2002). Authentic Happiness. Free Press. Brother David Steindl-Rast (1984). Gratefulness, the Heart of Prayer. Paulist Press. Wiseman, R (2003). The Luck Factor. Miramax.,Bibliography and Recommendations,